How have you been feeling lately?
In our society, it’s very common for us to habitually push through fatigue. Just have an extra cup of coffee, eat something sugary to give us a temporary kick, rather than slowing down or resting. After all, getting things done is more important...at least that’s what some of us tend to think. Even though your body is tired and begging you to slow down, are you afraid of what will happen if you do? If you’re not even able to manage all your responsibilities going full speed - wouldn’t it be disastrous, and ultimately even more stressful, to take a significant break? We won’t die of embarrassment if we speak up. Ask for help. Would your friend who needs you to look after her kids find another friend to help? Would someone else pick up the groceries for you, or take your kids to their basketball game? In April, my Dad passed after a long battle with his health. Our family was accustomed to Dad’s trips to ICU and emergency. He was a fighter, and determined to stay with us. The last few days at the hospital were heart wrenching and incredibly difficult. The grieving process began – but life doesn’t stop with young children. Lunches had to be made, laundry done, meals prepared, practices and games attended, homework completed. In May, I set a schedule to reconnect with progress of this issue, but I was feeling very tired and lethargic. On the heels of producing the Healthy Living EXPO, I chalked it up to exhaustion.
I made the decision the following day to take a drive to the County for a walk with Bell, my girl. I felt guilty - as busy people often do anytime we respond to our body’s signals to slow down. Like most of us, I frequently feel more comfortable “doing” than “being”. After some time embracing the sights and silence at West Lake, I felt deep emotion and grief. I slowed down long enough to allow snapshots of the past few years to surface, something which clearly my mind and heart needed to process. We really shouldn’t be concerned about what we’ll miss out on by slowing down. Rather, we should worry about what might we miss out on by continually pushing, pushing, pushing. We need to stop long enough for our bodies, hearts and minds to tell us what they are longing to communicate. It’s usually far more important than any item on the eternal to-do list. What might your life and body long to tell you, if you’d only stop long enough to listen?
LORI MITCHELL, PUBLISHER, EDITOR
This issue is dedicated to the memory of Doug Mitchell: husband, father, grandfather, lover of all things Scottish, comedian at heart and one who never, ever stopped.
Originally Published: June 23, 2017